Egg on Your Face: How to Deal With Mistakes
Mistakes have been a topic in our home lately. I really like to chew on an idea sometimes. I started paying attention to how many mistakes I make. It got kind of comical how many times a day I forgot to switch from my reading glasses I use for the computer to my all purpose glasses… or OOPS! I didn’t put my keys in their normal spot.
I find my mistakes that are of a more serious nature invaluable. Even when they sting, or really hurt. Even when I have to make the same mistake several times to learn. The messier the mistake the more I am going to learn—guaranteed.
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
— Thomas Edison
I find it interesting how we spend our educational years learning, at least to a degree, that mistakes are bad (I probably just drove every education professional out there nuts!… I am on a philosophical bent here). I just think mistakes are good. Failure is good. It gives me the contrast and the feedback I need to try something different. The contrast is why success feels so good! I didn’t always have this perspective on mistakes, but boy is it a good one!
(I could just insert my apology article here). Be honest. This is tough for us. It means having egg on our face. People get mad. But, they will respect the honesty. Honesty builds trust. On several occasions, I have had a client call me upset. They bring my mistake to my attention and end up relieved that I react with “oh, gosh! that is my fault.” I think they expect most people will deny it, forcing them to argue the mistake.
DON’T OBSESS OVER IT
I know you do this! (smiling) If something is upsetting us, we replay that video in our minds over & over. In some cases, don’t ask “why” (this is a killer for me. I want to know why!). If the mistake is an accounting error, then “why” works to help find and correct the mistake. If it is a friend that drops out of your life, you most likely will never know why. I am learning more & more that there is a lot more going on with people than I see on the surface.
LEARN FROM OTHERS
Those of you who know me know I like to talk. I like to hear about what other people are up to. Quite often I pick up little tidbits from their experiences. The best part is I get to learn from their mistakes. I didn’t have to go through the mess to learn something.
Admit it, fix it, don’t obsess over it, learn a lot.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
— Henry Ford
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